Blessing & Cursing

Our job as parents is to train and teach our kids the right way to go and how to make decisions and to show them what is important by our actions. As long as they are considered underage we need to provide for them and keep them safe, which isn’t always possible. Once our kids reach the age when they are making their own decisions, we need to realize that those decisions are their’s whether good or bad and they are the ones that will have to live with them. What we need to recognize are the curses that we hand them. We have issues of our own and if they happen to be issues with our own parents they will learn from us and the issues that they have with us are usually more severe. If we do not model what a relationship with Christ looks like how will they know what to do. Whatever our kids see us doing we have to remember that is the same as giving them permission to do likewise and in their case it is usually to a higher degree.
Just because we have passed sin or curses onto our children doesn’t mean it’s too late, it’s never too late to bless them. We have to bring our own shortcomings, our own sin, into the Light and let them see it and let them know we were wrong, one reason is because this is what they will have to do, as do all who profess to be Christians. And then we need to ask God to help us change what we are doing, change will only come with His help and our kids need to see these things in us if we ever expect them to understand or change.
Many of the issues we have with our faith can stem from our parents, if our dad was an absent father we can easily struggle with not thinking we matter to God or that He can hear us. Our first example of a father comes from our dad and if that is messed up we struggle with a relationship with God. Most of what we learn is modeled first and foremost in the home and guess what, we all make mistakes and we all bless and curse our children. But it’s never too late to change those curses to blessings and we shouldn’t get discouraged because it’s not on our timetable, and just because we are obedient doesn’t mean that God will undo all the consequences of our past actions. We need be vulnerable with our kids and be the example they need or they will take the example of the world and we know where that leads.

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